Following a breakup, you may feel lost, but according to a recent study, in the long run, it is likely that you will feel more in control as the dust settles.
Long- and short-term self-control trends connected to breakups
According to the study researchers, there is a connection between breakups and various long- and short-term self-control patterns. The study evaluated self-control trends after the death of a spouse, separation, and divorce.
Past studies indicate that a higher perceived sense of individual control over someone’s life promotes overall health and well-being. Conversely, intimate connections are strongly correlated with one’s sense of autonomy. For instance, many data point to a connection between improved relationships, pleasure, and control beliefs. Meanwhile, how the breakdown of relationships affects variations in perception of control is significantly less noticeable.
The findings showed that those who had separated from their partner reported a significant self-control drop during the first year following separation. However, their perceived control gradually increased after. Women are more likely to feel a loss of control following a breakup relative to men. Furthermore, younger individuals frequently felt more in charge of their lives than older people.
People who lost their spouses experienced a steady increase in self-control in the first year following their loss, followed by a steady rise in control compared to the time before their spouse’s death. Nonetheless, it’s important to note that young individuals typically experience more negative consequences regarding their control due to a spouse’s death.
No connection between perceived control and divorce
Surprisingly according to the study, there was no connection between perceived control and divorce. The researchers plan to track individuals who experience relationships for a long time and analyze perceived control changes.
According to the study, stressful situations can occasionally lead to growth, at least in terms of some personal attributes. For example, respondents in the survey grew more and more persuaded that their actions could influence their lives and destiny in the years following the loss of a loved partner.
